Live it, don't analyse it!

I came across this quote from the internet which I find quite meaningful—“The art of being wise is the art of knowing what to overlook”. I think it is quite relevant to our day-to-day communication, especially communications between couples.

When couples first date and fall in love, the emphasis is on all the things they have in common. Often you feel like you have discovered your very own soul-mate and the blending and compatibility are marvelous. The euphoria of new love is a madness of love that lasts only a short while. However, as you start to get serious about each other, you start to get analytical. Constant analysis can kill a very good relationship.

It is better, in my opinion, to focus on how you are feeling at the moment, and stay in the moment. When you start questioning how things are going to be in future, you are sacrificing the real for the unreal. If you think about it, anything can happen in the future, many things will happen which you could not possibly predict. It is likely the things you are imagining will never happen, and things you could never imagine will happen, so there is no use in considering too far into the future.

The important things to know about is how this person makes you feel, and if your values and attitudes towards marriage match. Accept the fact that people will change over time. Also, do not expect the person to share every interest in common with you. You will have to overlook some things, like bad habits or idiosyncrasies, in order to sustain the relationship and prolong good communication with each other.

Relationships do take work and the work of a relationship is being understanding and forgiving, overlooking unimportant things and being positive and loving. It is not about picking the relationship apart or finding faults.